33-Year-Old Making $200K Buys $5K Gaming Setup With Her Own Money But Says Husband Accused Her of ‘Financial Infidelity’ And Demanded She Return It
If you thought marriage arguments over money only boiled down to who forgot to pay the power bill, think again. One Reddit user dropped a story in r/AmItheA**hole that has readers wondering if her husband’s anger says more about control than cash.
The couple, both 33, have been together since college and by any measure are crushing it financially. They each earn close to $200,000 a year, wiped out student loans years ago, inherited a mortgage-free house, and have 18 months of living expenses socked away. They even max out their 401(k)s. In other words, no one here is living paycheck to paycheck.
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To keep the peace, they agreed to a hybrid financial system: joint accounts for household bills, savings, vacations, and big purchases — but also “fun money” accounts where each spouse could spend without scrutiny. He tends to splurge on golf, designer clothes, and sports memorabilia. She’s a runner, baker, and reader who rarely drains her allotment.
That difference in habits led to a pile of savings in her fun account. Recently, she decided it was time to treat herself. The purchase? A brand-new gaming setup — PC, desk, and chair — for about $5,000.
Her husband’s reaction was not “enjoy your new hobby.” It was fury.
“He says he had no idea I had saved so much money and that I should have consulted him before spending $5K,” she wrote. He went further, accusing her of “financial infidelity,” claiming her ability to quietly build up that account was a breach of trust.
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The demands rolled in: “He is demanding that I return the items I purchased and deposit most of the funds to our joint account.” He also wanted to enforce a new rule — no more than $2,000 could be held in fun accounts. Any extra would funnel back to joint savings, a rule that, as she pointed out, favored him since he burns through his allotment every month.
“I feel like I am being punished for being more of a day-to-day saver than spender,” she explained.
Reddit readers had a field day with his “financial infidelity” accusation. “Financial infidelity my a**,” one person said. “He is just jealous that you save enough for a nice new setup! He is being absolutely ridiculous. Do NOT return it and put it in the joint for him to waste.”
